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A real Christian is not interested in icons or other such outer signs of a supposed spirituality. By their fruits will you know them.

A real Christian understands the nature of his sins and seeks not hide them but to confess them and repent.

I'd say that the people you have met are not really Christians, but those who, as Jesus warned, would come saying Lord! Lord!
I say, here here!
These people are few and far between.

sure, you can talk to god, but if you don't listen then what's the use? so, onward through the fog!