Uh...I'm gonna recommend counseling, you need to get a handle on this fast. When you're getting older and your health isn't good it's easy to tip over into depression. Withdrawal and a loss of interest in daily routines are widely recognized symptoms.
If her mental health is fine then you two need to compromise and work out some goals for where you both want to be ten years from now.
I, of course, recommend the rural life. Fresh air, a dog, some chickens...absolute silence during the day and darkness at night.
But close enough to town for pizza delivery and fast internet.(**sighs**)
I'm glad I'm single with only my own welfare to look out for.
