I live in Calif.Went through a divorce in 98 My kid was 6.My ex moved back east.I at the time had no idea about visitation.In other words I had not established it with the court.As far as the court new I did not want to spend time with my kid.Based on my income I paid $1400.00 per month.Plus my kid spent the summers with me.I paid her air fare,Summer camp,you name it.Some summers I would take weeks off to spend time with her.Big cost.Then I found out if I had visitation my child support would go down.I filed with the courts for visitation and got 3 months a year.My child support went down to $900.00 a month.Then in 04 work had slowed down so I went to court to have child support reduced.Found out I was paying to much at $900.00 a month.My child support went to $550.00 per month.At that point her mother didn't want her back at the end of summer 04.So I went back to court and got my kid.Then when I took her mother to court for child support the court ruled that because she did not work she didn't have to pay.Now with all that said it cost me about $50,000 in att fees.Im glad I did what I did.Because now no one can say that I didn,t do what I needed to do.My kid is now 17 I have been divorced for 10 years now and am still dealing with this women.So put that in your pipe and smoke it.But I'll tell you what the best day in my life was when m I got divorced .
