Dealing with donor's family's pain was a strong incentive to change careers back when I was a transplant coordinator. I wasn't a nurse, so the other coordinators dealt with patients getting a kidney. All I got to see was the cadaver donor candidates. These were all healthy young people who had some tragic accident just days before, and were now brain-dead. Never had any problem seeing the donors, studying their charts. etc. Talking with their families was the hardest thing I've ever done. They were desperate for anything. All I could offer them was a chance their loved one's organs could help save other people. Thin comfort.