Phil - let me see what I can do without fine distinctions and parsing.
You can't have it both ways: Be
for "gay rights" and be
against gay marriage.
Rights are rights.
...so either you're for "gay rights" or you're not.
If you put it that way then you're gonna get nothing from me. I strongly believe that the term "marriage" is a religions institution and should remain so. It is up to the religions of the world to decide who they allow to marry. If you ask me to change that then you'll get a flat "no".
If you ask for civil union and equal civil rights than you'll get "yes".